The girl I want to Be

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I have never found motivation in comparing myself to someone else. However, I’m super good at it! I seem to do it a lot, especially when I’m feeling insecure or when work is slow. I’m sure that this is a product of society, my own insecurities, my own judgment. My own hopes and dreams and the ways I’ve realized them, or the ways I haven’t.
There are still moments when I am diluted by the trap of comparing my struggle to someone else’s success (thanks Instagram, you’re helping here a lot!).

One day when I decided that I’m not gonna live the mainstream lifestyle, I sat down with myself and wrote some notes that I still love to read through. At that time I knew I had a long way to go, I just didn’t really know where I was trying to get to. So first thing I did was that I wrote down this question:

Who is the girl I want to be? What is she like?

I made a list of things about the person I wanted to be– the things I wanted to be defined by:

  • The girl I want to be wakes up and is thankful before she is anything else. She makes her coffee before the sun rises. And at midnight, she drives up to the lookout above town, just to be closer to the stars.
  • She is a firecracker, but she is tactful when it matters. The room feels different when she walks in.
  • She is thoughtful with her friendships and with her love. She gives neither away without consideration. She invests deeply, but is not afraid to walk away.
  • The girl I want to be is gentle. She does not judge others for their flaws. She does not judge herself for her failures.
  • The girl I want to be is graceful and confident. She doesn’t wait for new cards, but plays big with the ones she already has.
  • She knows her greatness, and doesn’t waste time on those who undervalue her.
  • She is humble. She seeks for any kind of feedback and listens. She wants to be better and knows that self-improvement does not always flow easily.
  • She gives graciously even when she does not have much to give.
  • She has strong boundaries. She understands her needs and makes them known. She does not settle.
  • The girl I want to be asks questions. She asks them well and she asks them often. She listens to the experiences of those who are different than she is, and she takes no answers personally.
  • She is willing to be wrong. She is willing to sound stupid. She knows that she isn’t right all the time and that she never will be. She finds strength in vulnerability.
  • The girl I want to be says no when she is overextended and asks for help when she needs it.
  • She stands up and speaks out for what she believes in, even when it is tiring, because it is the right thing to do.
  • She chases her dreams, every day, without apology or restraint. She looks doubt in the face and declares, “I see you, and I’m moving past you.”
  • She is a powerhouse; a warrior for her truth. And I will work to be more like her every day.

You are living in the space between the person you are and the person you want to be. The only one worth comparing yourself to is past versions of you.

 

Who are you today?
Who do you want to be?
Who will you be tomorrow?

 

Cheers to another amazing weekend!

Love,

U.

I turned into a Yoga person

 

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Almost a year ago, I found myself standing on the yoga mat, watching the sunrise and trying to practice some sun gazing before my sun salutation series. In a moment of reflection, I froze and thought to myself, “Oh God, am I one of those people now?

I just never thought I’d be the type of person who did yoga first thing in the morning, or read a spiritual book/day, for that matter. I never thought I would buy into any of the stuff yoga teaches.

But without thinking too hard about it, over the course of the past year, that is exactly what I have become.

A month before that particular moment I crashed physically and I couldn’t do any intensive exercises whatsoever. So I turned to yoga. I had done yoga before. In high school, my dad wanted me to visit some classes because he knew about the benefits. As many women do, I dealt with an eating disorder and body dysmorphia, and as a result, my relationship with yoga was not a healthy one. I viewed it as a way to burn calories. I don’t need to add that I really didn’t enjoy it.

My history with yoga was not one of self-discovery, grace, or acceptance. It was the opposite. So when I re-visited yoga a year ago, I didn’t expect to like it. But my friend had invited me, it was free, and I was feeling stressed, so I thought it was worth a try.

In that first class, I got frustrated and sweat my ass off. It was uncomfortable. It didn’t feel good. But for some reason, I went to another class. And another… It began to feel okay, then it even felt good. Then things started happening to me mentally. I began to notice thoughts as they came in. I started paying more attention to where my head goes when it wanders, and to shifting my thoughts to things that are actually beneficial.

I started being more present in my day to day life.
I actively started trying to let things go that weren’t serving me anymore… things that I didn’t want to– or have to– walk with anymore. My yoga practice helped me give myself permission to let those things go.
I challenged myself physically. I saw my muscles get more defined and watched myself get into poses I had scoffed at only months before. I touched my toes easily, something I had never in my life been able to do.
I challenged myself mentally. I learned to focus on my breath not only in class but in life. I started to focus on presence without even trying.
I realized that the principles of yoga are the same lessons I fought to learn my whole life. The same themes of resilience, self-care, kindness, and courage that I had tried so hard to teach myself were things that yoga was now reminding me of.

Yoga is now something I carry with me everywhere. It’s something I do when I seek peace and a place I go when I seek challenge.

I turned into a yoga person slowly. Sometimes we build walls around ourselves to keep something out. I peeked over the wall I had built to close out things like yoga– things that were challenging, that I associated with judgment and “can’t.” I never thought I could be good at yoga, not realizing that there was no such thing.

I became a yoga person by doing yoga. But to do it, I had to try something new. I would never have known I liked yoga if I let the wall stay where it was. I never would have tried it if I had let my expectations stay where they were.

What walls have you built around yourself? Have you built them to keep out people and things you are afraid of, or intimidated by?

Make just one crack in your walls. Let a little light in. You might surprise yourself. You might find yourself breaking them down completely, and standing in a field of flowers instead. But you will never know if you let the wall stand.

I became a yoga person both accidentally and purposefully.
What I have gained most is this: when we let go of our expectations, we make space for all the possibilities we could have never imagined.

 

Here is a sequence of Sun Salutations in a way as I like to practice it. However, you’ll find a lot of different variations of it, so just dig into the one that suits you best…

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3 Decisions to Make Today

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I am usually all about positivity and productivity. I’ve consciously decided that I’m gonna focus on it and create my reality around these good feelings. But I don’t wake up every day with those thoughts automatically programmed into my brain. I don’t wake up every day motivated to make the most of the day when I have the worst migrene and I’m not even in my home country at the time. I don’t wake up every day wanting to run in the forest or go for a looong bike ride and take 100 photos along it. Some days, the stoke lies in wanting to stay in bed aaaaall damn day and feeling like I’m bad at pretty much everything.

So for these days I came up with 3 things that add a bit of a juicey vibes in the melancholic state, although you can practice them ANY DAY (but especially when you feel like crap).

1. SAY NO TO NEGATIVITY

Listen to your thoughts, embrace the feelings around them and ban the negative ones in a structured way. A thought like “I am not good enough,” or “I will never get this done” will not help you be better, however, there’s definitely a reason why a thought like that appeared. Notice the thought, try to find the underlying feeling, find the opposite feeling and say BYEEEEE to this whole mess that is usually overwhelming and a complete BS. Eliminate negative thoughts from your brain. They are not allowed, kick them out. Slowly move toward replacing them with a positive or productive thought.

2. GSD = 4 get shit done!

Start with minor steps.

  1. Take a shower! Add a bit of –ing and use Vim Hoffs method of at least 15sec of a cold shower.
  2. Get dressed!
  3. Drink a glass of lemon water!
  4. ADD SOME -ING TO YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL FEEL BETTER.

I keep a list of projects I want to accomplish. When I hear myself being negative or unproductive, I force myself to do something on the list, even though I reeeally don’t want to. I feel better 100% of the time once I get something done.

Whether it is making an appointment, sending an email, cleaning, taking out the recycling… whatever, doing SOMEthing gets the ball rolling. You don’t have to run a marathon. Just do something. And respond to every single thing that comes along the way.

3. TREAT YOURSELF

What does that mean to you? Think about what will feel good for your body and mind. And do that. For me, my morning routine is non-negotiable:

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It all starts with getting out of bed quite early (in the summer time before 6 a.m.), yoga with at least 20min of meditation, finished with some visualisation, a cold shower, hydrating skincare routine, eating a huge healthy meal, drinking a ton of water, writing in my journal, sitting in the sun, dancing my ass off and playing with my dog. Maybe it’s totally different for you.

Do what makes you feel good, worthy of love/success, and supported. YOU should be your #1 fan before anybody else. And if you don’t currently love yourself, ask yourself what changes you can make to head in that direction. Be kind to yourself.

Feeling bad from time to time is normal. Bad days are normal.

Making the most of every day is important ESPECIALLY when that day doesn’t involve a new country or a gorgeous face who I love to wake up to. Then, when you do have that inevitable bad day while on the road, you’ll be prepared to tackle it. To look it square in the eye and make the best of it anyway.

These three decisions, any day, anytime.

LOVE,

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BOL, the ultimate escape

There’s this island in Croatia that always leaves me speechless… It’s called Brač and the lovely town where I love to spend my time is named Bol.

I went on a solo trip this time. I just needed some time to regain my strengths and fill my cup with zero-planning days. Even though I was contemplating between visiting my human in Austria and going to the coast, I decided that some iodine infusion is probably way better idea. And beside that, I knew that visiting nice old fellas from Uni, Šime & Seba, would be the best idea possible! They are two extra active guys who always make sure that every day is fun and different.

After two days of acclimatisation (took a while, I know) I finally found some strengths to start exploring around and take some photos.

I’m not gonna drag more words out… I’ll just leave you with some photos…

 

– disclaimer no.1: I’m not a professional photographer/videographer but I LOVE making memories and recording them on the way.
– disclaimer no.2: I found that end of May and beginning of June is the perfect time for going here. There’s not a lot of tourists and temperatures are still bearable.
– disclaimer no.3: How the F is it possible that it literally takes you about an hour to edit a short video like this one?! Technology, I love you!
– disclaimer no.4: Scroll to the bottom to see the video! :))))

 

 

For more information visit BigBlue SPORT Brač <3

xo,

U.

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No Sun = No Fun

I’m this girl that will always wear bright collors. White or yellow hoodies, yellow bikinis, yellow headbands,… I feel as if I need to bring some light to places that haven’t seen the proper sunlight for a longer period of time. And by that I mostly reffer to cities.

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Happy banana wearing banana-ish sweater from S<3nian brand https://www.boopacks.com/

Actually, fifty thousand years ago, humans lived predominately in climates around the equator. Clothing was minimal and sun exposure was constant. And that’s where my body obviously got stuck.

As we migrated north, we endured sunless winters, wore more clothes and adapted to living indoors – away from the sun. So today, we live, sleep, eat and drive indoors away from the vitamin D-rich UVB sun rays. In Ljubljana, where I live, sunrays simply do not exist from November through March, making these months an emotional endurance event for me and many others. Studies have shown that seasonal mood disturbances and feeling low in the winter months is often found to have a connection with low serotonin levels, which may be related to lack of sunlight.

About ten years ago, researchers discovered that people who live in climates where natural sun exposure was the greatest experienced greater longevity!

When it comes to health, I just want to feel energetic, vital, focused and have a massive drive towards my goals. I want my brain to be sharp and I want to feel this amazing flow, where everything seems to be achievable. And I admit, I lost that. Completely. So I packed my essentials and drove South… to Croatia. Thinking that maybe some sun could have helped me regain my powers back…

 

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This place is pure ZEN!

So of course, Ursh hammered the sun exposure on her very first day. Being totally mind-blown from the beauty of the place where I stay, and actually extremely tired from everything that has been going on around me lately… I fell asleep and got sunburned as f*** (pardon my French amigos :) ). I am lucky to have a bit darker skin, so hopefully I’ll get a nice-brown skin in the next days.

But of course, first aid kit when it comes to sunburned skin is a proper cosmetic product (or few of them). I’m lucky to have Loccitane backed me up for the last couple of months and honestly this cosmetic brand is a big help for me to keep the “backstage” game strong. I love it and even though it’s not a secret that we built a nice collaboration, I always recommend their products to my family and friends as well.

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So this is my happy face, regaining back some serious strengths, and putting serums, gels and creams all over my face. I’ll definitely let you guys know how it works, but one thing is for certain: My roommates (sporty boys, who spend the majority of the day surfing or mountain biking) are already stealing some products from me!

Talk to you soon!

Hugs from the island <3

Ux

How to monetize your passion?

(Notes that I wrote down from different podcasts on this topic)

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It turns out it is pretty simple, as soon as you answer a few important questions for yourself and then take an action straight away!

Before we dig in, please note that with this whole »analysis-paralysy« thingy that’s probably going through your mind, a lot of people is struggling at this moment. But we all need to realise that in order for anything to happen, we have to do something. So this notes are here for all of us as a reminder that we should be active. That’s why I encourage you to read through, answer the following questions and make the first step towards the change today.

Let’s go!

 

1.) WHAT YOU DO THAT PEOPLE WILL PAY FOR?

Make a list of your potential products and services.What are you good at? What do people ask you for advice about? What are you known for in your friends group? What kinds of questions do people come to you with naturally? What are you good at making or creating? What do you enjoy doing?

–> And which of these things can you make money from? Are people always asking you for travel advice? You don’t have to do all this stuff for free.

Make a list of items you could potentially charge money for.

2.) WHAT IS YOUR THING WORTH?

When I first started working for brands and companies, I had no clue what I should have been charging. At first, I worked in exchange for exposure because it was worth it to me at the time. I can totally get that this is super hard. Maybe you have to get a little creative here. Make sure your questions are specific. Who do you know that does what you want to do? Find some kind of connection to that person and explain where you are coming from. Maybe they can give you some insight.

+ Do some market research using whatever resources are available to you, including  Google.

Eventually, you have to pick a price and go with it. “I didn’t know what to charge” is a dumb reason for not selling a product or service that people want. Whatever you charge is probably more than you’re getting right now ($0.00, right?).
But then, if everyone is saying “oh hell yeah” to your rate without trying to negotiate with you, then you’re charging too little. If nobody is responding, or if your pricing is shutting down the conversation altogether, then you’re charging too much or you’re in the wrong market. Change something and see what works.

Next to the list you just made, write the range of what you can charge for each item.

3.) WHO WILL PAY YOU FOR YOUR THING?

Figure out your ideal consumer/demographic. Who are they? How old are they and where are they located? What are they going through in their life? What do they do in their spare time? How much money do they make? Where do they shop? Why do they need your product or service?

If what you do/make is made more credible or valuable by having a large audience, you need to attract this audience (side note- do not buy followers) and give them value. How can you be most valuable to this group of people? How will you attract them? And why will they want to buy your thing?

For each item you could potentially sell, write a sentence or two describing your perfect customer.

4.) WHERE WILL YOU SELL IT?

Where do you want your thing to be available for purchase? If you’re a consultant, how will people know you exist and how will they contact you? If you lead workshops, how do people book those?

However people are giving you money, make it easy for them.

Look at your own spending patterns. How do you spend your money and why? When you think about your own purchasing experience, what makes it smooth and seamless? What makes you want to buy something again?
Give your customer options, but make the best deal clear and obvious– all they have to do is say YES.

Make a list of how and/or where you will sell your thing.

5.) WHAT IS YOUR PLAN?

Look at your answers to aaaaall of the questions above. They should give you some clarity on your next step. It should give you some idea of the options you have and the avenues you could potentially go down. It will also give you an idea of how scalable your thing is– and scalability matters if you are looking to make a fully grown career out of your passion.

If this feels overwhelming, ask yourself which of the things you wrote down feels easiest? Which of these could you start selling this week? Which of these could you start selling today?

Here is a personal example from one very successful photographer:

  • Getting a project-based photography or collaboration job

  • Make a list of 5 specific target brands

  • Shoot or compile images I have taken that are consistent with their branding

  • Make a portfolio specific to that style

  • Send portfolio with package rates (& make one of the packages stand out as a great deal)

  • Negotiate prices and packages

It won’t always be 5 steps– sometimes it’ll be 3 and sometimes it’ll be 10. Monetizing your passion can be big and scary. Breaking it down into actionable steps can make things seem much much muuuuch more attainable. After you make your plan, the next step is setting times or dates for when each of these will be completed.

+ CREATE, TRY, REPEAT.

Not everything you do will be a huge hit, and you have to accept that right now, otherwise failure will bog you down every step of the way. You can love it or hate it, failure is a crucial part of the process.

Do I think all passions can make you a ton of money? No. Do I think everyone should try to monetize their passions? No. But if you want to do it, NOW is the time. You are most likely not going to get any more clarity than what you now have. Entrepreneurship, creativity, starting a business or a side-hustle– these are not endeavors that come with a guidebook. You have to see what works and take it from there.

Get to it. And don’t forget to have fun.